When I was a kid, I did not have a lot of clips about my own gender. I do not know how everyone recognizes their gender, but I determined through my classmates and parents.

I don’t remember now if my parents told me about my gender as soon as I was born. All the memories I remember about gender cognition happened in my elementary school. I don’t remember if I knew my gender at the time, but I remember I played well with the boys. In kindergarten to elementary school, I am relatively active in the class, I will participate in activities for boys and girls. So at that time, I didn’t have much concept of gender cognition, I just felt that everyone was the same. When I was a kid, I was very athletic, so I had a close relationship with the boys. During the lessons, I often play on the playground with the boys, such as running and long jumps. I also have great strength. Drinking fountains in elementary schools need to be changed. Because of the heavy weight, the teachers made the boys change, but I can do the same, so I think boys and girls are no different.

Until one day, I went to the playground with the girls in the class, and things changed. We had half an hour of free time when I walked to the playground with the three girls. On the way to the playground, several boys saw me and invited me to play football with them. I agreed happily and told the girls that I would go to them in a while. Something strange happened. When I returned to find girls to play, I was rejected by them. They said that I was close to the boy, and I was just like the boy. They didn’t even want to walk with me. This makes me wonder why I cannot go with girls when I am good with boys. However, girls did not want to be with me, neither some boys. They won’t invite me to play sports with them, and ignored me for sometimes.

I was so upset about my situation. I became lonely. When I got home, I asked my parents, and they told me that girls and boys are different. Because I am a girl, in order to avoid a lot of problems, girls should keep a proper distance from boys. They don’t think that boys and I are good at sports, but girls should be more elegant. After that, I started trying to be ladylike. I don’t like wearing it because of the inconvenience of sports, but I started wearing skirts and started to keep a distance from the boys. Afterwards, I found that the boys are very energetic, and they can easily pick up the girls and not move. I started to understand the difference between genders. I understand the differences, but I don’t understand why they cause discrimination. Because many can be changed the day after tomorrow, such as speed or strength.

In China, my family is near the middle class, not very rich. I did not know much about cosmetics and luxury products before high school. Although I did not buy them often, an experience after high school made me feel that people have very different attitudes towards different classes. I also know that this phenomenon is very common.

I remember when I was in the 10th grade, my friends led me to pay attention to makeup and my dress. It is just to understand these in the beginning, and then to prepare these materials. The experience of buying materials fully reflects everyone’s class status. Since I was buying cosmetics for the first time, I found my friend to accompany me. When I first went in, there were not many people in the store. The shopping guide just glanced at us and then followed us. During our purchase process, there was very little communication, and the shopping guide did not recommend it as enthusiastically as other people said, for example, when we saw something, someone would recommend it with that thing. When we asked some questions, she also simply answered, such as whether there is inventory, or whether it is suitable for me. However, I liked that kind of situation, not too much or less. I think that situation is comfortable for me.

Later, there was a woman came who seems to be like a wealthy class. Although I didn’t see her wealth at that time, my friend told me that her clothes and pants were expensive. And that person was followed by two shopping guides. Although they were not as exaggerated as in the movie, their enthusiasm was real. Even in the end the lady bought only two goods, but the cashier carefully packaged and decorated each one. I did not know that whether the woman asked or the cashier chose to, but their attitude was different. Compared to that woman, those who looked like working-class people later did not have the shopping guide. I had a shopping guide to ask, but they had to find the shopping guides for helping. It was not a big difference, but it was about the attitude. For this experience, I found that it is easy for people to know their social status by looking the attitude of the shopping guides. Also, for some store, not only for the store that I went, they would not even let people in if their clothes is not clean.

I did not envy the service of the woman, and I felt a little stressed about that, but I did not like the way they treat working-class and poor people. This was the first time that I feel that differences in social status affect people in all aspects of life. I know that this kind of phenomenon appears in many different way and different place.